Respuesta :
the first one is the better choice. It is putting all emphasis on the self.
An example of an "I message" is the first one - "I feel frustrated when you shop up late because I feel that you don't respect my time. Will you please make an effort to be on time this week? This is the basic pattern of how 'I messages' get sent across - they mostly talk about you and everything within that message has to revolve around you.